At times we find ourselves doing things because that’s what we thought we were supposed to do. There’s an imaginary timeline of events in our head that have to happen by a certain age and if we don’t get them done accordingly, then we have failed.
Truth is, there’s really not a set timeline. It’s almost impossible to plan every aspect of your life and have it turn out that exact way. We also all have different points of views on being successful. One persons’ goal may be to have a large family at a young age, while another person may want to only focus on their career and grow from there.
Who are we to judge someone on what their goals are? Or what their definition of success is?
For example, I often see young parents on social media criticizing the older parents. They say things like, “While you’re going to be 35 waking up in the middle of the night making a bottle, my child will be making their own food.”
Maybe to the young parent(s), their goal was to start a family at an early age so when they’re older they won’t have to worry about waking up with a newborn and being exhausted in their mid 30’s? Maybe they wanted to have a larger family, so they started sooner? Or MAYBE life just happened and they ended up having kids at a young age! THAT’S OKAY! Everybody’s paths are different and maybe to them, having a family is their definition of being successful.
But on the other hand, the 30 year old parent(s) could have seen things differently. To some, their careers are what makes them successful. They want to use their 20’s & early 30’s for “making” & “branding” themselves. They want to be selfish with their time and they want to accomplish obstacles in their profession before they start a family. Again, THIS IS OKAY!
So why are we going around criticizing others on THEIR decisions on how they want to live THEIR LIVES?
Another example I can share is when someone asked me why would I want to get my Masters Degree? To feel better about myself? It’s just a piece of paper…
Well, who are you to ask me why I want my Masters? And how could it simply be just a piece of paper if my goal in life is to be a CMO and a Masters Degree is USUALLY required?
Funny how someone always got something to say, huh? The definition of “successful” should be what you make it. It’s YOUR meaning. YOUR life. You heard it here first!
I love this post. I can relate. I just graduated with my bachelors degree and everyone is critzing me because I don’t want to work In my field. I want to be happy and I know writing fashion and acting is what makes me happy. I don’t want to get stuck in a career that I hate . I want to be paid for my talents. Even if people think it’s dumb I’m done listening. You’re so right I appreciate this so much.
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Thank you so much!! 💕💕
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Great post! This is so important. I know several people when we were in our 20’s that we in such a hurry to get married before they got old, that they married the WRONG guys. They are all divorced now. I got married ‘late’ and had my kids ‘late’ and am so glad I did! I married a great guy (the right guy) and I truly think I am a better parent now then I would have been when I was younger. Life happens when it is supposed to, no need to rush or meet someone else’s expectations.
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Thank you so much for reading! 💕
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I think this is something everyone should read! It was great!
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Thank you for reading!
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This is a really interesting post, because it is so true. Some people just want to make out that everybody else is against them but really it’s just them against themselves. Sometimes it’s nice to be reminded of that so we can grow and develop on it.
Alex x
https://allthingsalexx.wordpress.com/
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Thank you for reading!! 💖💖
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Loved this post! It is SO important to do what makes you happy! xx
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Thanks so much for reading! 💖
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It’s really hard these days with social media for younger people not to feel like they have to have X or Y. We need more of these messages in the world to balance things out I think!
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Thanks so much for reading! 💕
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As a parent I can totally relate. I try never to give parenting advice unless specifically asked because no one needs unsolicited advice. What works for us may not work for you and vise versa!
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Great post! It’s important to follow our own goals, people are different and we all have different ideas and goals.
Chloe xx
http://www.chloechats.com
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Thank you for reading! 💕
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It’s so hard, but so true!! Thanks for writing this- I often forget to do this but not comparing myself to others is so important. It never ends well, after all!
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Thank you for reading! 💕
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Great post!
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Thank you!
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Oh, this was so refreshing! Couldn’t agree more. I’m not a parent myself, but I’m at that stage where a lot of my friends are getting married and some are starting to have kids, and I’m sitting here thinking oh man, I can barely look after myself yet! But I’ve learned that there’s no point comparing myself to them as we’re entirely different people on different life paths, and that’s okay! We’ll be ready when we’re ready 🙂
Rhianna x
http://www.tsundokugirl.com
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Thank you so much for reading!💕
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I think to compare yourself to others one of the worst things you can do to yourself. Everyone reaches different successes in life at different times. There’s no right or wrong way to live. There’s not a specific timeline everyone has to follow. Comparing ourselves to others just brings us down and leaves us no room to grow. Great post.
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Thank you for reading! 💕
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Great post! Totally agree! Do what is going to make you the most happy. Everyone has their own path to walk or un or crawl even!
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Thank you for reading! 💕
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Ahh! I totally agree with you. It’s taking me awhile to get myself to even get out and get a job at 21 because I get way too nervous over it and I hate it when someone posts about being successful at my age because they have one and whoever doesn’t are seen as lazy and unsuccessful but they don’t understand that everyone’s different and we all go at our own paces. Whoops I got into my own feelings lol. Loved reading this post!
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Thank you for reading ! Glad you could relate ! 💕
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Honestly I’m really glad I found this. I’m at a point in my life where it feels like everyone else is super successful and I’m still struggling trying to find out what I want/need in life.
This was a really good reminder for me that everyone’s life and path is different and it’s OKAY if mean isn’t like there’s.
You wrote this really well. It definitely speaks to a lot of people.
I’m glad writing is a part of your path 🙂
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Awww thank you so much !! I’m glad this post could help you!😊 thank you for reading !
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very true! Everyone has their own milestones and just because someone wants to get married and have kids by the time they’re 30, doesn’t mean that’s the case for all of us! Very motivating post x
G
https://www.teawithgi.com
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Thanks so much for reading!💙
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I love your handwritting so much!
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Awwwhh thank you !!! I hate it so much 😂😂😭😭
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So true. In most of the cases, it’s you vs yourself.
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