Forgiveness is not a right!!
You don’t have to forgive anyone that did you wrong and you sure as hell don’t have to forgive them to move on from the situation! I’ve heard it time and time again, that the only way to get over something is to forgive that person. I personally do not agree with this at all. This might work well for some and also for the people who don’t hold grudges, but it’s in my blood. Once you screw me over, I’ll never forget. Even if I forgave you, I don’t forget. So how is forgiving moving on? How do people who hold grudges move on from a situation?
Well one thing I learned is that not everyone is worthy of your forgiveness. Some just ask for it because they know you’re a pushover and know they can fuck you over. Other times, they just want to keep you around because you are an asset to them in some type of way.
I feel like I forgave so many people throughout the years that didn’t deserve it at all; Who did’t deserve to be my friend, period. As life keeps going on, I realize this more and more. I notice who hits me up only when they need something and of course, these are mainly the ones who say sorry continuously. They genuinely don’t give a shit. That’s why they keep messing shit up. What’s the point of keeping a person like that in your life? It doesn’t matter if they’ve been your friend for 20+ years or even just a year. If that person is shitty, get rid of them!! Who the heck wants to keep forgiving someone just because you’ve known them for so long.
Cut the shit.
People change. Sometimes for the good, but other times for the worst.
I’m not going to forgive everyone. I’m just not. All it has done is burn me. Stabbed me in the back. Showed me true colors.
And for what? To forgive someone who’s going to make the same mistake again.
If your friend went and talked shit about you behind your back to someone else multiple times, wouldn’t it be hard to trust them? Would you really want to save this friendship because of how long you knew them? If that person was your friend, they WOULDN’T be talking smack in the first place. Right?! RIGHT!!
People always make excuses for their actions. It’s human nature. But it’s also my right to respect myself and NOT forgive them. And like I said before, even when I do forgive, I DON’T FORGET. I let things go in my own time. In my own way. It takes years to be honest, but If I forgive you, it’s because I see how valuable you are in my life. And that I know you will make right by your mistake(s).
Forgiveness is something that should be EARNED!!! Remember that.
Written by a true Scorpio herself…..
Sorry we DON’T trust, forgive, or like just anyone. We’re the darkest sign around.. Could you really have expected something different? 🙂