Why You Don’t Have To Forgive Everyone.

Forgiveness is not a right!!

You don’t have to forgive anyone that did you wrong and you sure as hell don’t have to forgive them to move on from the situation! I’ve heard it time and time again, that the only way to get over something is to forgive that person. I personally do not agree with this at all. This might work well for some and also for the people who don’t hold grudges, but it’s in my blood. Once you screw me over, I’ll never forget. Even if I forgave you, I don’t forget. So how is forgiving moving on? How do people who hold grudges move on from a situation?

Well one thing I learned is that not everyone is worthy of your forgiveness. Some just ask for it because they know you’re a pushover and know they can fuck you over. Other times, they just want to keep you around because you are an asset to them in some type of way.

I feel like I forgave so many people throughout the years that didn’t deserve it at all; Who did’t deserve to be my friend, period. As life keeps going on, I realize this more and more. I notice who hits me up only when they need something and of course, these are mainly the ones who say sorry continuously. They genuinely don’t give a shit. That’s why they keep messing shit up. What’s the point of keeping a person like that in your life? It doesn’t matter if they’ve been your friend for 20+ years or even just a year. If that person is shitty, get rid of them!! Who the heck wants to keep forgiving someone just because you’ve known them for so long.

Cut the shit.

People change. Sometimes for the good, but other times for the worst.

I’m not going to forgive everyone. I’m just not. All it has done is burn me. Stabbed me in the back. Showed me true colors.Β 

And for what? To forgive someone who’s going to make the same mistake again.

If your friend went and talked shit about you behind your back to someone else multiple times, wouldn’t it be hard to trust them? Would you really want to save this friendship because of how long you knew them? If that person was your friend, they WOULDN’T be talking smack in the first place. Right?! RIGHT!!

People always make excuses for their actions. It’s human nature. But it’s also my right to respect myself and NOT forgive them. And like I said before, even when I do forgive, I DON’T FORGET. I let things go in my own time. In my own way. It takes years to be honest, but If I forgive you, it’s because I see how valuable you are in my life. And that I know you will make right by your mistake(s).

Forgiveness is something that should be EARNED!!! Remember that.

Written by a true Scorpio herself…..

Sorry we DON’T trust, forgive, or like just anyone. We’re the darkest sign around.. Could you really have expected something different? πŸ™‚

xox
La Flare
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The Witch Doesn’t Burn in This One.

16 thoughts on “Why You Don’t Have To Forgive Everyone.

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  1. This speaks to me! I’m awful with holding grudges after being burned too many times. I’ve just ended a friendship of three years because that person was pretty shitty., lying to me and lying to other people about me. You’re right – they can’t be a friend if they’re gonna do and say things like that. Life is too short to allow people like that in your life.

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  2. I love this post! Not something you hear often, but something I completely agree with. I do think it is important to not stay stuck in your anger/resentment towards those who wronged you because that will definitely eat you up. But you can let go of those feelings and move on even if you don’t forgive someone.

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  3. Very interesting post!! I’m a little different though and I always forgive, it doesn’t mean I’ll trust the person again, but it helps me move forward with my own life and makes me feel a little better. But I can completely understand where you are coming from 😊

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  4. While I respect your opinion, I am a person who believes in forgiveness. I don’t think forgiveness is forgetting nor do I think that if you forgive someone, you have to keep them in your life. I believe when you fester the anger of whatever that person has done to wrong you, it surrounds you with a negative energy that does hard to ourselves. I think there’s a difference between forgiving someone and allowing them back into your life, and forgiving someone for your own sake. I have learned a lot in the last few years, and I’ve learned that keeping grudges and holding resentment does very little to the other person but does loads to ourselves (myself). It was interesting to read this from your point of view! Great post, really got me thinking πŸ™‚ xx
    Melina | http://www.melinaelisa.com

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  5. Personally, I feel more at peace when I forgive someone because anger only bothers me. However, I’m not always capable of forgiving someone. And if I am it’s often because it’s better for me rather than for the other. I do agree that it’s definitely not necessary to forgive everyone though and I don’t even bother trying if someone is really that poisonous and bad for me. It’s simply not worth my energy and I’m better of investing energy in the right people that care about me! I really like your post because it’s quite honest and to the point and not necessarily a popular opinion!

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    1. I completely understand your point of view. Everyone handles things differently and some feel more at ease by accepting the apology & moving on. In my case, I tend to hold grudges a lot. I would be lying if I said it doesnt take a toll eventually! Thanks so much for reading !

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