At times we find ourselves doing things because that’s what we thought we were supposed to do. There’s an imaginary timeline of events in our head that have to happen by a certain age and if we don’t get them done accordingly, then we have failed.
Truth is, there’s really not a set timeline. It’s almost impossible to plan every aspect of your life and have it turn out that exact way. We also all have different points of views on being successful. One persons’ goal may be to have a large family at a young age, while another person may want to only focus on their career and grow from there.
Who are we to judge someone on what their goals are? Or what their definition of success is?
For example, I often see young parents on social media criticizing the older parents. They say things like, “While you’re going to be 35 waking up in the middle of the night making a bottle, my child will be making their own food.”
Maybe to the young parent(s), their goal was to start a family at an early age so when they’re older they won’t have to worry about waking up with a newborn and being exhausted in their mid 30’s? Maybe they wanted to have a larger family, so they started sooner? Or MAYBE life just happened and they ended up having kids at a young age! THAT’S OKAY! Everybody’s paths are different and maybe to them, having a family is their definition of being successful.
But on the other hand, the 30 year old parent(s) could have seen things differently. To some, their careers are what makes them successful. They want to use their 20’s & early 30’s for “making” & “branding” themselves. They want to be selfish with their time and they want to accomplish obstacles in their profession before they start a family. Again, THIS IS OKAY!
So why are we going around criticizing others on THEIR decisions on how they want to live THEIR LIVES?
Another example I can share is when someone asked me why would I want to get my Masters Degree? To feel better about myself? It’s just a piece of paper…
Well, who are you to ask me why I want my Masters? And how could it simply be just a piece of paper if my goal in life is to be a CMO and a Masters Degree is USUALLY required?
Funny how someone always got something to say, huh? The definition of “successful” should be what you make it. It’s YOUR meaning. YOUR life. You heard it here first!