When it comes to the people we love and care about, we have no problem helping them out. Sometimes we’ll even go above and beyond just to give a helping hand, but why do we feel the need to help others and not ourselves? Why do we assume everything will be okay within our lives without self-improvement and self-care? Sometimes it takes a while before we realize we need to make some changes and start making better decisions for ourselves. These incidents usually come to our attention when something tremendous happens or life changing. It’s like we ‘snap out of it’ and start focusing on our lives instead. In all honesty though, how can we ever expect to help others when we need to help ourselves first? What’s that saying?
“You can’t pour from an empty glass!”
Maybe that should be a motto to live by from now on for some of us. We often think that putting ourselves first can make us look “selfish” or “inconsiderate” when in realty, we’re just looking out for our well-being. There is NOTHING selfish about that!
There comes a time in our lives when we need to take a step back and look at the big picture. It’s important to analyze how far we’ve come and honor all our accomplishments we have made, but we also need to focus on the toxic traits we have. No matter what anyone says, EVERYBODY has some kind of negative characteristic that they can work on. Putting yourself first and working on these attributes not only helps you, but also those around you. It will make you feel better in the long run once you achieved your goal(s) you’re trying to pursue as well.

Self-care is not just about bettering yourself, but also about taking care of you and loving who you are as a person. You get one body to live in, so why would you destroy your only home? You wouldn’t want to live in a messy, unorganized house, right? So why not take care of your body in the same way? This can be anything from face masks, eating better, journaling, reading, a stress free night alone watching movies, or simply buying yourself that item you’ve been viewing all week on Amazon (to name a few). Self-care has NO limits, as long as you’re making yourself happy taking care of YOU! (and of course not hurting anyone else in the process). You would be amazed just how these small gestures can make you feel better time after time.
Self-improvement is something I believe we will always continue to work on. There is no ‘finish line’ when it comes to bettering ourselves. It’s something we will work on for the rest of our lives as we continue to grow and evolve. We will always go through obstacles in life that will challenge our mind, body, and spirit, so it’s important to step back every now and then and make sure we are on the right track. It’s easy to lose sight of the big picture and end up on a bad path again with our toxic ways.
(SIDE NOTE- If you feel your friends or family are a huge influence in your harmful behavior, it’s probably best to cut all ties now instead of later.)
To sum it all up, you are the only person who has the power to take care of you and correct your past mistakes. If you don’t do it, who else will? Not. A. Damn. Soul.
Xox
La Flare

This was a very interesting and important point. I agree that it is really important to work on self improvement!
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What a great read. I had to step back this month and work on self-improvement as my goals weren’t reached and my coworkers pointed out that I get angry when I receive criticism. It has been a problem but apparently they are worried.
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Ouch! It can always be hard to accept criticism, but it’s just a part of life unfortunately. I know I can take it badly at times as well. They might just be looking out for your best interest! Thanks so much for reading! 💓
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This is so true lovely, we all need to look after ourselves because we can’t run off an empty tank. We need to physically and mentally refuel so that we can be the best version of ourselves we can be. I hope that people read this and go to take care of themselves. A great post!
Alex x
http://allthingsalexx.wordpress.com/
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Thanks so much for reading! 💓
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Thanks for posting! it reminded me to reflect on my self-development goals and assess my relationships with other people ✨
Jess | http://www.jessrigg.com
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I was thinking about investing in myself today. I am focusing on reflecting on how I can change.
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Good luck! & thank you for reading! 💓
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We do need to take care of ourselves or we crash.
Thanks!
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Thanks for reading!💗
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Really great post I find it so hard to find time for self care and definitely running on empty. X
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Thanks so much for reading!💗
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Great post! I truly believe in self-care!!
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Super important! Thanks so much for reading!
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I really enjoyed reading this. Loving your work xxx
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Thank you so much!
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Great post! Love positivity
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Thank you for reading ! 💕
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I love self help books and self improvement articles. “You can’t pour from an empty glass” will be one of my favourite quotes this year. Thank you so much for sharing this inspiring article. Keep on sharing.
Kaye – http://amalog.co
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Thanks so much for reading!💖💖💖
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Yes, go be an inspiration! We get so caught up in the mundane and seeing others as they show through social media that we might not really appreciate who we are or be comfortable in our own skin.
S .x https://samsramblings91.blogspot.com/2019/05/19-asian-dramas-you-can-binge-on-netflix.html
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Thanks so much for reading! 💕
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I love this – such important words!
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Thank you for reading!
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So Important to fill your own cup first, I think a phrase I’ve heard before is that you fill others cups when yours is overflowing from the overflow.
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Love that one!!
Thanks so much for reading!😊💕
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This is wonderful stuff, thank you.
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Thank you for reading!😊
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I’ve def spent the last few months working on me for me 💪 I totally now live by you cant pour from an empty glass
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Thank you so much for reading!💕😊
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This is so important! I totally agree.
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Thank you for reading!
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This is so true . self care is very important. At all times I tend to evaluate myself ,cut out those that tends to be toxic to me . and love myself more . I am always learning new things and more things about myself . I’m always grateful to God for all the things he keeps teaching me that is helping me become a better person.
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I agree 100% ! Thank you so much for reading! 😊💕
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“You can’t pour from an empty glass!”
YES YES YES!! You have to take care of you first. You are so important, take care of yourself!
Beautiful and empowering message!
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Thank you so much for reading!💕
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I agree so much with the importance of taking care of one’s own mental health in order to become more healthy overall! Positive mindsets can have better impacts on our overall physical health than negative mindsets. I write about this mind-body connection in my own blog posts from the perspective of positive psychology, which demonstrates the importance of meaning and fulfillment in one’s life. Feel free to check it out sometime and leave any contributions to the content that you would like. Great post, keep it up!
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Thank you so much for reading! I’ll have to check it out!
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No problem! That would be so much appreciated, thank you!
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This is such a well-written and articulate post! I completely agree with you, looking out for number one is sometimes a real necessity. I went through a stage of feeling absolutely drained by trying to always be there for other people without working on my own issues. It’s hard! And you’re right, sometimes self care is actually doing the harder stuff like eating better and exercising in order to give yourself the care you deserve!
Beth x
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Thank you so much for reading !💕💖
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This is definitely something to live by! This was a really lovely read 🙂
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Thank you so much for reading !💕
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Great advice…seems simple but it sure isn’t!
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Not at all ! It takes time and dedication forsure. Thank you so much for reading !
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I believe its important to self reflect and have “me time”. Self love is important and our happiness should be our priority. Like you said, investing in ourselves is a must and should not be negotiable.
Found this post to be inspiring, thank you for sharing!
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Thank you so much !! And thank you for reading !!💕💕💕
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Love this post! I’ve been really trying recently with self care because I do a lot for other people. When I have time to myself I end up wasting it scrolling through social media or something and then sleeping. I’ve found meditation and taking time for reading with a lovely cnadle on is great self care. oooh and can’t forget a nice warm bath.This is great advice
Lon x
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Yessss girl! Thank you so much for reading !! 💕💕💕
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This is spot on!! It’s so easy to get caught up in the normal daily routine that you actually forget to check in with yourself every now and then. Usually, we are too far gone and stuck in a big rut before we realise!
Hayley || hayleyxmartin
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Thank you so much for reading!☺️☺️☺️
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I strive everyday to be a better person by investing in things that will improve my mind, body and spirit. Thanks for sharing this inspiring post!
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Thank you so much for reading !!
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I love this post so much as someone who advocates for investing in the self. Great post.
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Thank you soooo much and thank you for reading !!!💕💕💕
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Love your statement that there is no finish line to self-improvement. So true – and so exciting!
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Thank you soooo much for reading!!💕💕💕💕
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I enjoyed this post! I’m trying to do this myself and even though I’m only in the beginning, I’m feeling a lot better about myself. I’ve already cut ties with the toxic people in my life so now I need to start on loving myself xx
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That’s always a great start ! Getting rid of the deadweight! Thank you so much for reading !💕
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Thank you for the reminder! I needed this today! Following in WP now.
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Thank you SO MUCH for reading ! I’m glad this helped!💕
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Nice post. Thank you!
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Thank you for reading !!
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Good advice! I also second taking distance from toxic people and setting boundaries.
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Yes!!! Thank you so much for reading !🖤
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Love your focus on self-improvement. Self-improvement is the main thing that drives me in life. I completely agree with your message! Wonderful and inspiring post.
Laura / https://www.laustworld.com/
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Awh, thank you so much! And thank you for reading !🖤
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Self- anything is very difficult for me as, due to my mental health, I have little respect for myself. I’m working on it but it’s going to take a while! Great post!
Daisy xoxo | TheDeeWhoLived
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I hope you get there sooner than later! Taking care of you is an essential part of life. Thank you so much for reading !💖
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Love this post! I started on the journey of consciously working on loving myself a few years back, and I can see a huge difference in the way I carry myself and am perceived by others. It’s a wonderful world when you love yourself mind, body and soul.
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Thank you so much for reading !💕
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Remembering to perform even basic self care is something that I let slip a lot. This post serves as a great reminder of how/why it’s important.
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Thank you so much for reading !💕💋
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That’s absolutely true. You cannot pour from an empty glass. Taking care of oneself first is important
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Thank you so much for reading!💕
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This is so important for people to understand about themselves. For years I had such a hard time with putting myself before others. Once I realized that’s what I need to do it relieved so much stress I was feeling! Great post!
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So much yes!!! I’m so glad you put yourself first! Thank you so much for reading !💖
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