Relationships always required time, effort, & love to make it work. But nowadays it seems like they fall apart a lot easier. People are so quick to throw in the towel instead of working out the issues. They rather walk away because it’s simpler, but how can anything last when no one is willing to put in the effort?
We see others saying things like “relationship goals” or “I hope to one day have a relationship like yours.”
Why compare YOUR relationship to someone else? Your ‘relationship goals’ should be original and unique. You should want to make your OWN goals instead of studying others. Remember, not everything you see is true, so why want to be like someone else? If you continue to think this way instead of striving to build your own, your relationship will not flourish. Take all that effort of wanting what they have and put it into your own relationship. I promise that outcome will benefit you & yours the most.
Another reason relationships are falling apart is social media. People are putting more effort in checking their notifications rather than checking on their partner.
Have you ever gone out to a restaurant and saw a couple paying no attention to each other as they scroll through their phones?
What’s even the point if you aren’t going to enjoy each other’s company? Are your social media platforms that much more important than the person sitting across from you? For some of us, we may not even notice we are condoning in this behavior, but for others, it happens every time. Our phones tend to be the center of our attention and this can be very distracting when you are out with your significant other. You are showing you rather put your time and effort into someone/something else online rather than what’s in front of you.
As millennials, we need to learn how to put the phones down. We want a relationship that is everlasting and full of love, but we aren’t willing to put in the effort or the time ourselves. We rather scroll through our news feed and like pictures of what other people are doing rather than giving the person we love the time of day. And we rather hashtag relationship goals under a photo instead of making our own goals.
Honesty, trust, and respect are hard to come by nowadays. Value what you have before it’s gone and work on what’s in front of you rather than finding something else to give your efforts to. Relationships are not easy, but if you aren’t putting in the work (time, effort, & love), then you can’t be surprised by your end result.