Why Spending Time Alone Is So Important!

The thought of being alone scares many people. Some even go out their way to make sure they are never alone at any given time. I understand the thought can be intimidating, but how are we to know who we truly are if we never spend time with ourselves? Alone?

I’ll admit, there were many times the thought of being alone scared me too. I didn’t want to do anything unless I had someone to do it with. It could be as simple as going shopping or running errands. I always felt the need of having someone there, but as I got older, I started to realize spending time alone isn’t so bad. I get to be selfish with my time and do what I want to do. I don’t have to check in with anyone or ask their thoughts about certain plans. I can just simply do them, but it’s not just about doing what you want to do. Spending time alone also helps you understand who you are as a person. It takes you out of your comfort zone and makes you do things you never thought you would do on your own.

When I first started my job in downtown Chicago, I knew I had to shake off the college student mentality and do some growing up. I used to skip lunch sometimes in college because I didn’t want to eat alone on campus, but there was no way I was going to continue doing that at my office job at 25. I remember the first time I went to grab lunch and sat on my own like many people around me. It wasn’t strange and I’m not sure why I used to tell myself these things. I was always so worried that people would look at me, but nobody even cared because it’s not out of the ordinary! People have to grab something to eat every so often, so why would it be weird to be seen eating alone? Many times our thoughts can be our worst enemy and we tend to overthink. That’s exactly what I was doing with my dilemma of eating lunch alone. I was so worried about looking weird or being by myself in general, but now I don’t even think twice. I’d be damned if I skipped lunch just because I had to “eat alone.”

Spending time with yourself is more than just eating alone, trips to the mall, or seeing a movie. It’s also about learning to love yourself and know who you are as a person. Do you really enjoy the things you do with your family and friends? Or do you just do them because it’s what they like and it’s familiar to you? Are you stuck in a routine or is this genuinely your lifestyle? When you separate yourself and do shit alone, you will be able to answer those questions.

Don’t stay in a situation just because you’re unsure of the future and don’t want to be alone. You only have one life to live, so why live it for anyone other than yourself?

Xox

La Flare

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the witch doesn’t burn in this one — Amanda Lovelace

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  1. I love my time alone and always did as an only child growing up even to this day! It can be difficult to convince yourself to do something alone but if nobody else wants to do it with you you shouldn’t have to miss out! Great post.

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  2. I remember the first time I went on a date by myself; I took myself shopping, to dinner, and to the movies. I have to say, going to the movies alone was a lot more enjoyable than I was expecting it to be.
    Great post, it is super important to spend alone time and learn the difference between alone and lonely.
    xo Bri

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    1. Thank you so much ! & thank you for reading ! Doing things alone can be less stressful sometimes & it’s nice to not have to share that time with someone else!

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    1. Omg! You’re right! Your blog post is so similar to this one!! Great minds think alike! It’s such an important topic to touch on because many people associate the term alone with ‘lonely’ as you also brought up as a point ! Thank you so much for reading ! ๐Ÿ–ค๐Ÿ’•

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  3. I actually thoroughly enjoy being alone. Not all the time, mind you, but I have no problems being alone. I was an only child of a single parent and I was constantly left alone after school until my mom got home from work. So for me, being alone wasn’t a bad thing it just was. I learned to entertain myself and not be afraid of anxious when being alone.
    Obviously, I also loved being with people and I was always glad when my mom came home. It’s more just I can easily manage to be alone for long periods of time without worrying!

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  4. Love this post so much! I often do things alone, such as shopping (mostly because Iโ€™m more likely to buy things I actually need than if I go with other people) and also eat lunch alone most days whenever Iโ€™m at work. I think being alone or being able to do things by yourself is such an important thing to do as it gives you time to do something you actually want to do and not just because your friend or family member wants to do it. Great post!

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    1. Exactly !! It’s also relaxing to not have to deal with other people for the time being. I rather eat my lunch alone on most days as well. Thank you so much for reading ! ๐Ÿ’–

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    1. They really don’t! People are so quick to look for human interaction or someone to just be there and they never realize how much they don’t know about themselves because they’re never alone ! Thank you so much for reading!๐Ÿ’–

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  5. Iโ€™ll admit I love my alone time but certain things Iโ€™m still scared to do alone. Social anxiety means I want to spend time in private alone and time in public surrounded with protection. The more I started doing the latter alone the better I felt about myself.

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  6. I’m introverted so I like having time by myself, and that’s ok! I think you are right about it being about yourself, checking in, looking after you first, not because you don’t like being around other people.
    Ellyn x | Life Of A Beauty Nerd

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  7. I’m one of those who doesn’t mind being alone. Like going to the mall alone, eating outside alone, etc. But only now that I’ve been so busy with work and life that I’m starting to appreciate being alone. “Me time” calms me. I’d do it whenever I get the chance. Great post, hun! x Ain (www.captaineverland.co.uk)

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  8. Great post and very well written! I definitely relate to this post on several levels. In my teens and early 20s, I was definitely worried about perception and not wanting people to think I was unpopular by eating alone. I have also felt the dread of having to face my own inner emotional turmoil. Being with other people was a way of running away from my emotions. I realize now that I had no helpful strategies for acknowledging difficult emotions.; except avoidance which wasn’t a great long term strategy. It led to anxiety and panic attacks. Thankfully, I have learned of healthier ways of dealing with emotion; so I’m no longer scared to be alone. In fact, sometimes I need it!
    Roger

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    1. Thanks for sharing all this, Roger ! I think its extremely difficult in our teens & 20s when all we want to do is fit in. But we fail to realize time alone is healthy and definitely needed. Thank you so much for reading !โ˜บ๏ธ

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  9. Sometimes, I end up talking to myself during my alone time because I spend so much time talking like a baby to my 1 year-old. But it helps me clear my head, I need alone time. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Talking to yourself can help in so many situations though. Like trying to go over a pros & cons list or a ‘pep talk’โ˜บ๏ธ thank you so much for reading ! ๐Ÿ’•

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  10. lovely post! I agree with you, spending time with yourself is more than just going out alone but more like embracing who you are and beginning to love that person who youโ€™ve become. Being comfortable in your own skin is one of the first steps in putting yourself first and the needs of others. Itโ€™s not selfish, itโ€™s just reality.

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  11. I think this is such an important thing, to be truly happy in your own company is amazing. I love being on my own at times and I crave that time with myself. I sometimes want to do things alone like going for food and to the cinema etc but itโ€™s hard when society finds that so strange! Maybe one day!!
    Danielle | walshdanielle.wordpress.com

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  12. I had family members that lived alone and always would ask them how they coped – but now I’m older I totally understand that time alone is essential, even preferable! Even if it’s ‘time alone’ sat with each other but doing different things – hobbies are so important and ensure that you don’t lose yourself along the way.
    MB
    meaghan-bethany.blogspot.com

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