Why Spending Time Alone Is So Important!

The thought of being alone scares many people. Some even go out their way to make sure they are never alone at any given time. I understand the thought can be intimidating, but how are we to know who we truly are if we never spend time with ourselves? Alone?

I’ll admit, there were many times the thought of being alone scared me too. I didn’t want to do anything unless I had someone to do it with. It could be as simple as going shopping or running errands. I always felt the need of having someone there, but as I got older, I started to realize spending time alone isn’t so bad. I get to be selfish with my time and do what I want to do. I don’t have to check in with anyone or ask their thoughts about certain plans. I can just simply do them, but it’s not just about doing what you want to do. Spending time alone also helps you understand who you are as a person. It takes you out of your comfort zone and makes you do things you never thought you would do on your own.

When I first started my job in downtown Chicago, I knew I had to shake off the college student mentality and do some growing up. I used to skip lunch sometimes in college because I didn’t want to eat alone on campus, but there was no way I was going to continue doing that at my office job at 25. I remember the first time I went to grab lunch and sat on my own like many people around me. It wasn’t strange and I’m not sure why I used to tell myself these things. I was always so worried that people would look at me, but nobody even cared because it’s not out of the ordinary! People have to grab something to eat every so often, so why would it be weird to be seen eating alone? Many times our thoughts can be our worst enemy and we tend to overthink. That’s exactly what I was doing with my dilemma of eating lunch alone. I was so worried about looking weird or being by myself in general, but now I don’t even think twice. I’d be damned if I skipped lunch just because I had to “eat alone.”

Spending time with yourself is more than just eating alone, trips to the mall, or seeing a movie. It’s also about learning to love yourself and know who you are as a person. Do you really enjoy the things you do with your family and friends? Or do you just do them because it’s what they like and it’s familiar to you? Are you stuck in a routine or is this genuinely your lifestyle? When you separate yourself and do shit alone, you will be able to answer those questions.

Don’t stay in a situation just because you’re unsure of the future and don’t want to be alone. You only have one life to live, so why live it for anyone other than yourself?


La Flare

the witch doesn’t burn in this one — Amanda Lovelace

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  1. Alone time is so important and so underrated! As you mentioned, so many people are scared of it, but when you’re alone is often when you can grow as a person πŸ™‚ Great post!

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  2. Ok, I LOVE this! I do really enjoy spending time with people but I also love being alone. And I have often not done things because I’ll be alone but that’s actually something that I’m trying to work on at the moment. Just the other week, I signed up for a writing workshop on zoom and even though I didn’t know anyone, it was so enjoyable and I’m definitely glad I went πŸ₯³ Great post xx

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    1. That’s awesome! It’s always good to get out of your comfort zone and learn new things. You will only grow from it! Thank you so much for reading and good luck with your writing workshop !!!πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–

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  3. Definitely so important to enjoy your own company and spend time with yourself. I miss prepandemic downtown Chicago work lunchtimes – was so to just walk around and see the city and grab food off a food truck

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  4. I love what you said about how spending time alone can help you understand who you are as a person. Completely agree!

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  5. Great post! I love spending time alone, as it is a chance for me to recharge and enjoy hobbies that I love. I spent so long thinking that I needed someone to accompany me when I wanted to go out to a restaurant, museum etc. But you don’t. Spending time by myself provides me with a chance to get to know myself and discover what I actually enjoy. 😊
    Thank you for sharing your experience.

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    1. I agree! I haven’t seen my friends since November lol ,, but spending time alone is always good (maybe just not this long lol) thank you so much for reading πŸ’•

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  6. I spend a lot of time alone; I am happy in my own company. I would rather stay alone than be in a relationship where is not conducive to my health. This article is great for normalising it.

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  7. Great post! I totally agree with everything that you said. Been alone in small moments like having lunch or going out to shop is actually quite normal. We should be okay doing those things by ourselves. It also gives us time to just be ourselves and not put on a face.

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  8. So true! In my 20s I hated being alone, especially at the weekends. But now I love alone time. I even went away for a few nights last year by myself and it was AWESOME! I literally got to do whatever I wanted and had the best time. Great post πŸ™‚

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  9. I’ve been living with my significant other for 1,5 years now, and although I absolutely love every second with him, I enjoy spending some time alone: I go grocery shopping, sit in our office and work on my blog, or just doing my workout at the gym. I really enjoy these few hours alone. When I was single I used every opportunity to reflect on myself and really learn about who I am and who I want to be. Those quiet, alone times are great for self development. Thank you for sharing!

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