The thought of being alone scares many people. Some even go out their way to make sure they are never alone at any given time. I understand the thought can be intimidating, but how are we to know who we truly are if we never spend time with ourselves? Alone?
I’ll admit, there were many times the thought of being alone scared me too. I didn’t want to do anything unless I had someone to do it with. It could be as simple as going shopping or running errands. I always felt the need of having someone there, but as I got older, I started to realize spending time alone isn’t so bad. I get to be selfish with my time and do what I want to do. I don’t have to check in with anyone or ask their thoughts about certain plans. I can just simply do them, but it’s not just about doing what you want to do. Spending time alone also helps you understand who you are as a person. It takes you out of your comfort zone and makes you do things you never thought you would do on your own.
When I first started my job in downtown Chicago, I knew I had to shake off the college student mentality and do some growing up. I used to skip lunch sometimes in college because I didn’t want to eat alone on campus, but there was no way I was going to continue doing that at my office job at 25. I remember the first time I went to grab lunch and sat on my own like many people around me. It wasn’t strange and I’m not sure why I used to tell myself these things. I was always so worried that people would look at me, but nobody even cared because it’s not out of the ordinary! People have to grab something to eat every so often, so why would it be weird to be seen eating alone? Many times our thoughts can be our worst enemy and we tend to overthink. That’s exactly what I was doing with my dilemma of eating lunch alone. I was so worried about looking weird or being by myself in general, but now I don’t even think twice. I’d be damned if I skipped lunch just because I had to “eat alone.”
Spending time with yourself is more than just eating alone, trips to the mall, or seeing a movie. It’s also about learning to love yourself and know who you are as a person. Do you really enjoy the things you do with your family and friends? Or do you just do them because it’s what they like and it’s familiar to you? Are you stuck in a routine or is this genuinely your lifestyle? When you separate yourself and do shit alone, you will be able to answer those questions.
Don’t stay in a situation just because you’re unsure of the future and don’t want to be alone. You only have one life to live, so why live it for anyone other than yourself?
Xox
La Flare

I love my time alone and always did as an only child growing up even to this day! It can be difficult to convince yourself to do something alone but if nobody else wants to do it with you you shouldn’t have to miss out! Great post.
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Same !! I’m also an only child so I completely understand! Thank you so much for reading! π
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Self-love – love it! Time alone is so precious – I learn so much about myself during it! Great post!
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I love me some alone time. It is important to get some space sometimes! Good post x
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I so love alone time even if it is just a little trip to tesco. It helps to clear the mind even if itβs just for a second x
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I absolutely love my ‘me time’ because it is so important. I know many people don’t like being alone but it is healthy for us all!
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I remember the first time I went on a date by myself; I took myself shopping, to dinner, and to the movies. I have to say, going to the movies alone was a lot more enjoyable than I was expecting it to be.
Great post, it is super important to spend alone time and learn the difference between alone and lonely.
xo Bri
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Doing things alone is so relaxing too! You dont have to check in with anyone! Thank you so much for reading !π
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I think that spending time alone is needed for us, when we are alone we can think about ourselves and where we want to be in the future. We can analyse our thoughts and values, alone time is needed even for an extroverted person.
Laura / https://www.laustworld.com/
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Really nice post. Being autistic means I do a lot of things alone anyway and I really relate a lot to what you said.
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Thank you so much ! & thank you for reading ! Doing things alone can be less stressful sometimes & it’s nice to not have to share that time with someone else!
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omg we have such similar thoughts! I wrote a similar post a few years ago, and I agree that sometimes you just need to each lunch alone to learn how!
Becky | Uptown Oracle
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Omg! You’re right! Your blog post is so similar to this one!! Great minds think alike! It’s such an important topic to touch on because many people associate the term alone with ‘lonely’ as you also brought up as a point ! Thank you so much for reading ! π€π
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Oh my gosh I LOVE time alone. If I won the lottery I would buy an island and live on it, just having books sent to me and food haha.
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Hahaha omg same !! The older I get, the more I hate people !πππ I always joke with my friend how we’re going to move in the middle of nowhere one day, like a secluded island! Haha thank you so much for reading !π
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Yes, it’s so super important to know how to be totally cool spending time with yourself and yourself only! A lot of times my own company is actually the best company I could have!
– Laura || https://afinnontheloose.com
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I actually thoroughly enjoy being alone. Not all the time, mind you, but I have no problems being alone. I was an only child of a single parent and I was constantly left alone after school until my mom got home from work. So for me, being alone wasn’t a bad thing it just was. I learned to entertain myself and not be afraid of anxious when being alone.
Obviously, I also loved being with people and I was always glad when my mom came home. It’s more just I can easily manage to be alone for long periods of time without worrying!
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I can relate 100%! I’m an only child as well so i spent a lot of time alone too.
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Love this post so much! I often do things alone, such as shopping (mostly because Iβm more likely to buy things I actually need than if I go with other people) and also eat lunch alone most days whenever Iβm at work. I think being alone or being able to do things by yourself is such an important thing to do as it gives you time to do something you actually want to do and not just because your friend or family member wants to do it. Great post!
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Exactly !! It’s also relaxing to not have to deal with other people for the time being. I rather eat my lunch alone on most days as well. Thank you so much for reading ! π
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That’s so difficult nowadays. I really don’t think people know how to spend time with themselves nowadays
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They really don’t! People are so quick to look for human interaction or someone to just be there and they never realize how much they don’t know about themselves because they’re never alone ! Thank you so much for reading!π
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I love taking a little time to myself. I find the solitude to be so full of quiet thoughts I would not otherwise have.
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Iβll admit I love my alone time but certain things Iβm still scared to do alone. Social anxiety means I want to spend time in private alone and time in public surrounded with protection. The more I started doing the latter alone the better I felt about myself.
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Spending time alone in quiet is important. No TV or anything that can impact your nerves.
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I’m introverted so I like having time by myself, and that’s ok! I think you are right about it being about yourself, checking in, looking after you first, not because you don’t like being around other people.
Ellyn x | Life Of A Beauty Nerd
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I’m one of those who doesn’t mind being alone. Like going to the mall alone, eating outside alone, etc. But only now that I’ve been so busy with work and life that I’m starting to appreciate being alone. “Me time” calms me. I’d do it whenever I get the chance. Great post, hun! x Ain (www.captaineverland.co.uk)
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You’re right; there are so many people who are scared of being alone.
Self-love is definitely key when it comes to living an amazing life!
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Great post and very well written! I definitely relate to this post on several levels. In my teens and early 20s, I was definitely worried about perception and not wanting people to think I was unpopular by eating alone. I have also felt the dread of having to face my own inner emotional turmoil. Being with other people was a way of running away from my emotions. I realize now that I had no helpful strategies for acknowledging difficult emotions.; except avoidance which wasn’t a great long term strategy. It led to anxiety and panic attacks. Thankfully, I have learned of healthier ways of dealing with emotion; so I’m no longer scared to be alone. In fact, sometimes I need it!
Roger
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Thanks for sharing all this, Roger ! I think its extremely difficult in our teens & 20s when all we want to do is fit in. But we fail to realize time alone is healthy and definitely needed. Thank you so much for reading !βΊοΈ
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I agree absolutely. There are times where I just feel the need to be alone with myself.
I think it is even healthy to be left alone to just self-reflect
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Alone time helps you evaluate yourself and reflect on a lot of s***. It helps you find solutions to them and some stuff you’ve been through are just funny.
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Sometimes, I end up talking to myself during my alone time because I spend so much time talking like a baby to my 1 year-old. But it helps me clear my head, I need alone time. Thanks for sharing!
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Talking to yourself can help in so many situations though. Like trying to go over a pros & cons list or a ‘pep talk’βΊοΈ thank you so much for reading ! π
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lovely post! I agree with you, spending time with yourself is more than just going out alone but more like embracing who you are and beginning to love that person who youβve become. Being comfortable in your own skin is one of the first steps in putting yourself first and the needs of others. Itβs not selfish, itβs just reality.
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I think this is such an important thing, to be truly happy in your own company is amazing. I love being on my own at times and I crave that time with myself. I sometimes want to do things alone like going for food and to the cinema etc but itβs hard when society finds that so strange! Maybe one day!!
Danielle | walshdanielle.wordpress.com
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I completely agree ! Thank you so much for reading!
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Me time is always calming and so peaceful. I couldn’t agree more with you on this. Very important!
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I had family members that lived alone and always would ask them how they coped – but now I’m older I totally understand that time alone is essential, even preferable! Even if it’s ‘time alone’ sat with each other but doing different things – hobbies are so important and ensure that you don’t lose yourself along the way.
MB
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I think spending time alone is so important. As an introvert that’s no shock, I see it as healing time. π€
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I honestly prefer my time alone to time spend with other people nowdays, it’s so much better for my mental health sometimes to take a step back and just relax x
Kayleigh Zara πβ¨ http://www.kayleighzaraa.com
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Iβm the same, I much prefer being in my own company sometimes, itβs no offence to any of my friends, but I just need some me time sometimes! Great post x
Jared Davies | Fashion & Lifestyle Blogger
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Love this! π x
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So true. When I got divorced I started doing stuff just me. Go out for dinner, go to the movies. And at first it felt so weird, but now itβs just normal.
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I can relate to this! I never used to spend time alone because I used to be afraid to be with my thoughts. Now at 27 I am working at building a healthy relationship with myself. To be honest, travel has helped me a great deal with that because it made me realise how much I need to trust my judgment. Obviously I need to do a lot of inner work still, but I can feel the progress. Great post!
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That’s awesome! Traveling definitely can help get you out of your comfort zone & you might also find some new things about yourself you never knew you enjoyed ! Thank you so much for reading & good luck!π€
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Sometime Spending time alone is necessary. Self time help us to look the world from different angles.
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Alone time, in my opinion, is essential to independance and to actually learning to know and like yourself. As an introvert, I also know that alone time is essential for me to recharge so I can manage social situations ongoing.
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I could not agree more! If you don’t spend time alone, then how will you ever get to know yourself? Thank you so much for reading!π
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I honestly think spending time alone is good for the soul. I once went travelling for a few weeks alone and it really helped me connect with myself x
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Wow, that is awesome !! I definitely applaud you for that! I’m going on my first solo vacation next year & I cannot wait ! Thank you so much for reading!π
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This is really great. There’s an assumption in society that if you’re alone then you must be lonely. But being alone and happy in your own company is one of the most powerful things you can do. I try and challenge myself to go to a coffee shop alone or to the cinema every so often. It’s time just for myself and who cares what people think about me being alone.
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That’s amazing! I inspire to one day come over my fears and sit alone in a nice restaurant. Thank you so much for reading !π
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I love and cherish my time alone. I don’t get it very often, to when do I make sure to enjoy it! I think there is a bit of an assumption that if you are on your own you must be lonely, which isn’t the case most of the time!
Em x
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I completely agree! Some people are just scared of “alone time” and I really dont understand it. I know people who have to be around people 247. Or go out to the bar for human interaction. It’s sad. Thank you so much for reading !!
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Being alone is important! It gives you time to reflect and actually figure out what you really want. it’s easy to be influecenced when around others – not always a bad thing if they push you in a positive way. But you really need to work out what you want, for yourself. I have always been pretty happy doing things alone – however, I am yet to go to the cinema or go to a restaurant alone! I know I would be fine, I just seem to wait until it’s a social occasion.
Hayley || hayleyxmartin
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I completely feel you! I still tend to get my stuff to go and eat alone, but I have many friends who go out alone and they say it’s relaxing. Thank you so much for reading!β£
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spending tome alone can be so important as you’re making time for what you want to do when you want to do it x
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Amazing post! My parents died young so I’ve only really known being alone. It has its advantages and disadvantages. I’m hoping to work on loving myself this year while in therapy!
Daisy xoxo | TheDeeWhoLived
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Alone time is so good! I donβt get to do it that often so when I have it, I cherish it.
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Love this post.
I love spending time in my own company. I think it’s so important to understand how to be with ourselves and to enjoy our own company.
Kate | thelittlecrunch.co.uk
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Alone time is important to discover yourself and know who you really are. Great post
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You just have to find a balance between being social and alone time. I’m on the opposite side of the spectrum. I am single, live alone, and work for home so I spend a considerable amount of time alone. Plus, I don’t ever wait on people to do things that I need or want to do. Luckily I have very social friends that make sure I get out frequently and I so appreciate them for it.
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That sounds like heaven ! Away from everybody in the comfort of your own home. Lol but i feel ya! Thank you so much for reading!π€
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